The middle school students told me they are more comfortable sharing about themselves with their dads than their mothers. Why? Because mothers get too emotional when they hear stories of their children making poor choices.
It’s not that their fathers don’t care. They do, they told me. They respond with discipline but without the emotion.
But, generally, they said, they offer alternative stories depending on the audience.
As adults, we do this, too. At home we grumble about the boss but at work we paint on a fake smile and say, “great!” when he asks us how we are. Or a customer yells at us and instead of ripping them a new one like they are ripping us, we calmly reply, “I hear your concerns.”
It’s appropriate to change our behavior based on our environment. But if we believe we never have a place where we can show our true colors and emotions, then depression is bound to visit.
If you find yourself depressed because you can’t share with someone else how you truly feel, then please reach out. We’ll help you find a healthier way of being.